Life Lessons

Don't beat yourself up about mistakes. There is no point in looking backwards at something you could have done better and retracing the ins and outs and ups and downs of what went wrong and dwelling on the error. Forget 'what if's and live in 'what now's. A mistake has no value if you don't learn from it. Look ahead not back.

Likewise, forgive other people their mistakes. It makes it even harder to forgive yourself when someone else continually brings up the error in your ways. If a partner or friend makes a mistake and they know what they should have done wrong a lecture is only going to be a kick when they're down. It's not productive and not based in love.

You're going to be ok. This is not conjecture or speculation. I know that everything is going to work out. It may take a lot of work from you. Once you've put the effort in though you just have to let go and surrender. God will take it from there.

Friends are important. Friends are not disposable. Relationships take maintenance and nothing comes easy but the work you put into it is returned with interest on what you get out of friendship that has has struggles that you have pushed through. Friendships need to be give and take not one or the other and we have to be mindful of how the other person is feeling at any given time. It's easy to be self-absorbed but when we wound others we also wound ourselves.

You will not always feel how you feel right now. If you're laughing now, remember that you will one day cry so enjoy the laughter. If you're crying now don't forget something will happen very soon that will have you laughing again.

If you're doing the best with what you have no one can ask any more of you.